~ #SoulFul Therapy ~

Hello Everyone! In my last post I announce my moving to another host for my blog. The process is stil in full effect but is moving slower than I intended. I was definitely irritated at the fact that I couldn't do what I wanted at the time I wanted it done. Then I thought maybe it's just not time , there is a time an a season for everything. All things happen in its proper season. From passed experience I've learn not to my self into or through a season because it only creates frustration and sometimes stagnation. I decided while I wait I will be productive while I wait I will count our to write , create newer better ideas. See on the process of waiting sometimes the motivation dies you can begin to feel well maybe this isn't for me. This is not always the case it's just the in between time preparing you for what your about to step into. It's like training before a racing, you can't sit around and wait not get prepared you have to put in work to be your best....

As I walked around the house trying to get house work done, I kept tripping, slipping and sliding! I had on my old worn out ragedy comfy house slippers. The ones that you have to slide your feet in order to keep them on lol . After the ump teen time of having the slipper fly off I finally got frustrated. I kept getting tripped up and my house work was taking much longer than it should have. I switched in to a pair of New Balance sneakers tied them up and went to work. Didn't have another problem tripping there was no more delay. I was now full speed a head and making up for lost time. I finished a little late but not as late as I could have if I continued on with the incorrect shoes.  Your probably wondering why is she talking about shoes in the title and all I'm hearing about is house work? You know I'm going to tell you 😊. As I finished up my work I realized the significance in the types of shoes we wear and what they represent. In a metaphorical way, the shoes you wear ...

I was sitting at home the other day just thinking about how blessed I am. I was remembering a time when things weren't as peaceful when thing were confusing and I didn't know when they were going to be ok. All I can do is smile and thank God. The walk I have come from was a long one but with him I made it! I'm going to let you in on a little of my walk and hopefully it will save you some of the steps in your walk. Before I met my wonderful husband I had been single for about 6 years. Durning that time I did some dating a lot of dating lol but my main focus was me and my future. I became one of those independent woman who worked hard spoiled myself and conquered many things. Now I also became a bit of a control freak. My atmosphere had been set the way I wanted it, which was free from any type of possible threat. I had hardened my heart and didnt even realize it because my little inner circle was fine. Guys I dated that didn't fit into my world I dismissed with the quick...

What the World need Now is Love sweet Love! Seems like when the world was more focused on loving one another things weren't as chaotic. So much tragedy and sadness in the world. The focus of many has become selfish self centered and greedy. I remember as a child growing up what we watched on television to the music we listened to all had the message of caring and loving one another. Cartoons back then expressed love joy happiness. Any one remember carebears ? Or how about School house rock? You probably just smiled thinking about those shows ! How about Full house or the baby sitters club books ? (I'm telling my age now huh). Our world was focused on love, teaching and learning lessons. Now you have songs based on selfishness greed and separation. Everything is all about me me me! If I told you there is one solution to all of these problems would you believe it!? I am a living witness to miraculous transformation and heeling all because of LOVE. I've seen Love pull someone ...

It's amazing how after you have gotten over a mountain you can sit back and see clearer. You can see the who, the how, the what and the why! The title of this post is addictions I briefly spoke about my mountains because at the time i was climbing I didn't realize i had an addiction. Now when you hear the term addiction often we think of some sort of drug or alcohol. My addiction was neither of these. Let me first explain a little about addiction. Studies show that those who have and addiction usually is due to a traumatic experience that makes a person want to tune out there reality. An addiction can interfere severely with your everyday life. An addiction can effect how you spend your time and your money. An additiction can hold you hostage from your prepared destiny. I know your probably like alright already what's your addiction ! Lol ok here goes ... Well my addition was food.😳 It's been about 2 years now since I've went on my journey to better myself inside a...

Moving is a project in a half !! As always there's is always a lesson to be learned. You never know how much stuff you have until your packing too move! I'm tired just thinking about it ! You also never know how much worthless things your holding on too. Those things that are tucked way in the back of the closet or balled up in a bag. I realized this very same concept can be applied too oneself. You never know how much stuff you carry until it has too move. We carry things that are balled up tucked away hidden most of the time unrecognized. Some we recognize we hold on too it because it's become apart of a routine. Did you know you could develope a unhealthy routine and that be your normal? There are so many people in unhealthy relationship,professions, friendships, and state of mind. Some people don't feel normal unless they have some sort of drama or anxiety going on in there life. Some people don't feel love unless it abusive. Some work in a profession that goes ...

Take a moment and think ask yourself am I functioning in a old season? What do I mean by this ? You know I'll be more than happy too tell ya 😁 haha ! The Bible say for everything there is a season! (In Short) Eclesiastics 3:1  Have you ever found yourself questioning why something that you have done in the past that worked flawlessly, you seem to be a struggle now?  You know you can do it with your eyes closed, with little to no effort . It seems this go round is a bit of a struggle. Your season has changed! Just like we have too prepare our selves for the seasons of weather. We have too prepare ourselves for the seasons in life too change. Those who know me know I love to learn. Theres jokes that I am addicted to school 😁. For 6 years straight I went to college obtained degree after degree certificates  etc you name it. Then unbeknown too me my season had changed. School was done,new position at work, a husband, new ministry work. Here I was still trying to function in...

Hey Guys a little late with my post life has been super busy for me! Currently on vacation but like always there's a lesson too be learned. So I am on vacation with my husband visiting some family eating way too much seeing a different type of life. I'm a city girl to my heart I love side walks and corners stores and the fact that things close at 1am instead of 9pm! We're currently south and it's a whole different tempo here I sure many of you can relate if you have been between the two. My post this week is about control we often use control as a way of protecting ourselves from hurt harm or danger. I myself am a very structured person and when things tend to get out of the box I can begin to feel some type of way. My husband is the direct opposite he's the go with the flow type of guy he and it seems to just work out. Weeks building up preparing for this trip I was so stressed about where we were going to stay what's the agenda etc. My husband on the other han...

We have been discussing change and transition over the last couple of weeks. Now that our minds are made up we know what we want to do how to do it we know when we want it done. This is a critical time during transition because when we are ready for change we usually want it right away! Waiting can cause a strain on the decision you made to change. During the time of waiting you can go back and fourth with yourself wondering do I even want too change? Am I capable of change? Are the people around me going to reject me if I change? This is a natural reaction because it's hard to wait and it's hard to seek the unfamiliar. It is absolutely worth the wait, worth being uncomfortable. You are worth it! Taking the short cut too change will never have a lasting effect. For example let's say your taking a multiple choice test, you just want to get it over with. You hate taking test your anxiety level is high your done over this thing. You start too choose random answers finish quick...

Be Accountable...  I find myself reflecting ... Over the last few years so much has changed. I have changed. I am still changing. I think back to when change began. Those things that assisted me in changing assisted me in growing. First and for most nothing's possible without God without him I could achieve nothing. The moment I choose to become serious with God was the best change I ever made in my life. In doing that I learned the value of accouability. Let me take you on a little history journey with me.... Growing up I always found myself questioning things why do I have to look the way I look, why did I have the hair that I have, why couldn't I have the "perfect" family others had, why couldn't my family be rich. The list goes on and on ... I always had a desire to be something different than who I was.Often I was referred too as "boring". I would look at the popular girls in school who were either popular based of what they had or how well they cou...

Guilty!!!!  Being a fixer can be a great thing and it can be a counter productive thing all at the same time. If you are used to being the person who is put in the position too handle everything. Even put your self in the position without being ask. Sometimes you play the role of parent  and don't even have any children. Becoming the responsible sibling when your not the oldestor an only child.  That person who is readily available to help. Taking up the slack always no matter how your left feeling. I learned we can become addicted to almost anything! I had become addicted to  helping. I had no idea that I have an addiction to helping. Don't get me wrong it's great to help others by all means but not at the expense of hurting yourself. Or to the point that you resent others for not reciprocating things the way you do. I am the type of person when faced with a challenge I attack it head on and am usually successful in tackling that challenge. In doing so I sometimes r...

I was going through my iPad reading some of my old notes I happen to come across some old poerty that I had written. I honestly had forgotten all about them because I haven't written poetry in quite some time. Back then I used poetry to express how I was feeling because I didn't know how too verbally praise Jesus for growth!  This poem was inspired by the day I met my husband, we happened to cross each other's paths while I was interning for grad school. It was my last day and we ended working on a project together, we had seen each other a few times before but neither of us had spoken to one another.  That day in a few hours we spent together  I was really touched  it was an instant connection. There was just something about him .... We were smitten secretly and I don't know about him but I didn't want that day to end ... Little did we know a few years later we would be man and wife. God certainly has a way of blessing you when you least expect it. I decided to sha...

Smile ! Let start with that 😀 ok I bet that felt great! I know there can be so many things in life that attempt to steal your smile. Things that you think you will never recover from. Situations that no one could possible understand. There's never enough money, I need a job, the people around me don't appreciate me, if I get one more bill in the mail ! The list goes on and on ! Our minds our flooded with this all day long and we forget or get so emotionally burdened that we pause. I  am a living witness that I want you to know, YOU were born for a purpose on purpose! You can get that degree! You can open that buisness!  Start/finish that book!  you can loose the weight! You can get married have children what ever your heart desires faith can get you there! Know that Someone does care about you! Your bank account won't always be low ! You are a power house of dreams, determinations, and success! The first step to achieving these things is to get out of your own way!!! No ...

In my first reflections post I told you guys, I would post more in the future these are moments worthy of being remembered and shared! I hope you are just as encouraged as I was !  We hear the saying everything happens for a reason so often. When you are going through tough times you sometimes don't want to hear or understand how that can be a positive! (Just keeping it real)  I have to testify because this moment in my life I hope to reflect on often because it was right on time. It was at one of the lowest feeling moments in my life, everything seemed to be going wrong. I mean from finance, friendships, health, even my relationship. I walked into work eyes puffy and red from crying the whole drive there. It felt like I was crying from my soul. As I was trying to get my self together I made myself some hot tea so I can push through it. ( cause that's what we do never really healing) a woman I've talked too a few times at work but don't have relationship with outside wo...

A Blessing is such a wonderful thing, it will have you floating feeling like your on cloud 9 , like nothing can ever bring you down. Thats exactly what a blessing is designed to do! It's imperative to keep our eyes open for our blessings they come in any way shape or form. There's a firmilar scripture that comes to mind you may have heard this scripture many times "write the vision and make it plain". I can only speak for me when I say hearing this verse I'll write out my plans pray about them and sometimes forget about the list due to life's business. I tuck it away thinking " I took it too God he heard my prayers I'm all set".  To the contrary that list is not only for God but it is for our selves. Yes he has heard our prayers  no doubt. Often we pray for things, for people for situations and  don't give a second thought to them after there out in the atmosphere. Then all of a sudden seems like life has taken a turn for the worst. The sun h...

They say only the Strong Survive ... By the way who are "they" anyway ?  Just curious! This sentence right here creates the idea that those who are strong never need strength. Being strong often means being hurt, because you forget about self and stand in the gap for others. This position is not always chosen can be placed upon a person unwillingly. You wear your poker face  when you need to get the job done but deep inside your hurting. Walls of pain built up to protect you. The strong come off as not being phased by anything. Never need assistance never need an encouraging word. I'm hear to tell you that's so drastically wrong. Behind that bright smile there a aching to be given what you are giving out to others. There a desire to often quit because why do I have to be the strong one the responsible one all the time. There's a misconception because things get handled I don't need assistance. Because I don't mind helping lets just pile the work up. Becaus...

Dictionary.com defines love as:  a   feeling   of   warm   personal   attachment  or deep  affection,   as   for   a   parent,   child,  or friend. The Bible often uses the word charity when referring to Love.   So many songs dedicated to love, we have the Book 5 love languages by Gary Chapman ( great book by the way ).  So what is Love?  There are so many definitions depending on who you talk too. Today I can say that the perception I had of what love was is totally different then what I know Love is today. My idea of love was based off of actions I expected from others made up from fictitious accounts I've seen over the course of my life.  Those romantic comedies we love to watch or reality dating shows full of drama. At the end the girl always got the guy and They fell in perfect love and rode away in the sunset happy as can be. Now that I think about it these people never worked or ...

There are all sort of "ships" in life  There's friendship, relationships, partnership, leaderships internship, and the list goes on. How do you know when your in a sinking ship or if a "ship" has set sail with out you . Or are you the captain of the ship. The main goal in every "ship" is companionship. We are designed as people to want to belong to a group an organization a safe place. A place were you can be you self a place where you can cry a place where you can grow. What happens when the ship your in starts to sink ?  In life we make friends we date people we join groups. During that time it feels as if the way things are will last forever. Then it comes a time when things must change, this can either make or break the relationship. To live is to grow, if we're not changing we not living because life is a series of change right? So in a situation were you are growing and the party or parties a round you are not what do you do? When a friendshi...

For as long as I can remeber I have never fit in. I'm sure I share this feeling with a lot of people.  Being in a room full of people but still feeling alone. Having moments where you wonder why do I have to be the odd one out. Working hard to achieve goals and have your success look upon as if you did something wrong. Feeling ostracized because your doing well in your life. Sometimes feeling more comfortable around strangers than family and friends.Then finally thinking I'm darned if I do darned if I don't! Is it just me? You may be reading this like geez that's depressing and in those moments I felt that way too. So many questions why? Emotions up and down trying to figure out how to fit in but you just can't . Praise be on to the Lord ! Once my purpose was revealed to me I realized I wasn't  created to fit in. I was created for a purpose that not everyone can handle. I became proud to know that I didn't buckle under the pressure of having to be like those...

There are moments in life that you have to take notice stop an reflect.  From time to time going forward you will see these post called "reflection moments" . It's just me taking the time to express gratitude for those moments in life that are special that move you that make you feel grateful.. Feel free to express some reflection moments of your own remember sharing your story can help the next person. So here we go ...  A few days ago I was blessed to participate in a conversation that made me appreciate and understand a lot of the trials and tribulations I have been through. In talking to this person it was as if I was talking to the former me. It made me grateful for a few reasons, first to see that I have made so many changes for the better. Second there was a reason I had to go through what I've been through ! In the mist of a storm it's hard too see the other side or even know if you are going to make it out. Your world becomes a series of questions and ...

About two years ago myself and a dear friend decided that we were going to take telling the truth to another level. Now to be clear it wasn't that we lied to each other but there are those moments in friendship when we don't speak up. We don't speak up because we worry we will hurt the person or that the person will get angry. Contrary to all the cons we decided to push our friendship to the truthful limits! The reason we decided to do this you ask ? It was to better ourselves as the strong woman we proclaimed ourselves too be. So know matter what we agreed to tell each other the truth and be open to the criticism and correction if need be. Why did we decided to take the truth check challenge ? When you see yourself and those around you continually repeating the same mistakes , clueless to what the cause is remaining stagnant hurt and frustrated you become exhausted. Once you become tired destruction can be right around the corner because at this point your each Like what...

I'm going to take a moment to be transparent. Once upon a time In my life i enjoyed gossip and would sometime even join in on it. ( now a lot of  people do many won't admit it) At the time I found it harmless and sometimes entertaining it was all just jokes right ? Until one day I ended up on the other side of gossip now my life was the topic! I didn't even know why, what had I done. It literally  had me questioning me self, looking over every action I take, second guessing myself. Then it hit me or should I say it was revealed to me. All the juciy "harmless" stories and jokes I had listened too those people probably felt the same way or worst. During that time when all eyes or should I say mouths felt like they were on me I felt lost. I felt hurt, violated, angry, disappointed and humiliated. Then I began to withdrawal not being sure who I can trust who I can now talk too. Boy was the enemy having a field day with me! The moral of my story or should I say confess...

There is a Devine Purpose for each and Everyone of us. As I sit and reflect over my life there's one identifiable feeling I can remember. It was that pull inside of me that I had something significant to do! You may wonder have I ever felt "the pull? Purpose is something we are born with it is in your genetic makeup. God was so strategic so detailed to build each and every person in this world as and individual fearfully and wonderfully made. I'm in awe when I think about how each and every person in this world was given a gift all there own and no 2 people have the same gift. How awesome is that! Even if you don't see your gift or don't under stand know that it is there. God didn't run out of promise while creating you he gave it equally so no need to worry he blessed you too.   The best way I can describe the pull is to say it's a feeling almost a knowing  Deep down with in that tells you there's more! It's the knowing that  you have greatness in ...

Beware of the boredom trap! Seems like when a person gets bored all the worst ideas come in there mind. You want to hang out with people you know you have no business, go places you know you shouldn't. Entertain things that other wise would not appeal to you. Getting bored will make you call that ex you couldn't stand ! Being bored can make you venture in to territory you never thought you would. Being bored can lead to dangerous situations. Being bored will have you settling for less than you deserve for a moment of entertainment. I wonder if somewhere deep down we secretly have a need for drama? That adrenaline rush that makes life seems So intense ! Have we been programed  to  except drama and messiness as the   new normal? I can only speak from personal experience to say boredom has gotten me in some situations I wanted to kick my own butt about! The next time you have a overwhelming feeling  of boredom take notice of what are the first things  that come t...

Hurt can be so detrimental to a persons life . It seems to take on a role all of its own. I find a lot of people today function out of there hurt. Once hurt a protective shield is build that won't let anything or anyone in bad or good. People can build there whole life around there hurt. Hurt can keep you from reaching your destiny. Hurt brings fear and fear will cripple you stopping your progress leaving You stagnant. Hurt never comes alone it's the leader of the pack ! It has friends such as lack of trust , frustration, confusion,fear, anger and rebellion. Best believe if you have hurt it has unpacked it's bags making your load heavy sometimes to the point where you feel you can't make it or want to give up completely.  You have so many ideas and dreams you can't get off the ground because in your mind you feel maybe this won't work (fear). I'll get around to it just have so much too do (confusion). You feel no one will support you anyway so why try ( lack...

I find that people love to hear a good story ... I know I do! .. There was nothing more entertaining or enlightening then a good story. It either secretly answered a burning question or provided information I didn't know. Theres nothing like sitting down and listening to someone who has great tales too tell. In a life I believe that everyone of us have an amazing story to tell. In telling that story we help the next person or persons. We are all role models in some way shape or form. The world is our class room our platform with many waiting. Waiting for the answer to that question no one else can answer or understand. Waiting for that encouraging word that may get them though there tough situation. Will you tell you story today ?  Remember there always someone watching you your life is a living testimony. It's the answer to someone mystery.  Share your Ulitimate Story today! 

Hello Out there! It all has to Start some where ........ Have you ever had a Dream that seemed so big that it was impossible to even wrap you mind around attempting to achieve it? Have you ever had that feeling deep down inside that there something greater in you that your purpose is much greater than you find your self present day? I imagine that I am not alone ...  My beginning starts here with Soul-therapy A place were positivity lives, laughter is plentiful and you may even learn something too.