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Sinking Ships

There are all sort of "ships" in life 

There's friendship, relationships, partnership, leaderships internship, and the list goes on. How do you know when your in a sinking ship or if a "ship" has set sail with out you . Or are you the captain of the ship. The main goal in every "ship" is companionship. We are designed as people to want to belong to a group an organization a safe place. A place were you can be you self a place where you can cry a place where you can grow. What happens when the ship your in starts to sink ? 

In life we make friends we date people we join groups. During that time it feels as if the way things are will last forever. Then it comes a time when things must change, this can either make or break the relationship. To live is to grow, if we're not changing we not living because life is a series of change right? So in a situation were you are growing and the party or parties a round you are not what do you do? When a friendship you've had your whole life is revealed to not be what it appeared to be. When your successes are not celebrated but evaluated ? When your normal is no longer ... 

I have been through many seasons where my normal has been turned upside down. Where my ship had sank. I'm left wondering who is really for me. Ive stayed too long in a situation that I had out grown. Been to accomidating when I needed to be firm. Made excuses why I should stay why I'm okay. All these decisions left me walking in circles and wondering what I was doing wrong! Go figure ... I blamed me ... When all the while I forget that a ship takes more than one person to function. My point you say ????
 Friendships, relationships, they are designed for a purpose. Take a step back and evaluate the ones that help you excel and the ones that are causing you to sink. Time doesn't always determine who should be apart of your story it's there actions that allow them to play a starring role. Durning this evaluation dont forget to examine yourself. Are you a good friend? are you doing your part? are you sinking the ship? controlling the ship? or playing the co captain on the ship.. What ever position you find your self in make the best of it. If there's room for improvement own it. If there need for a change do it now! Keep your ship afloat! 

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