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Dictionary.com defines love as:  a   feeling   of   warm   personal   attachment  or deep  affection,   as   for   a   parent,   child,  or friend. The Bible often uses the word charity when referring to Love.   So many songs dedicated to love, we have the Book 5 love languages by Gary Chapman ( great book by the way ).  So what is Love?  There are so many definitions depending on who you talk too. Today I can say that the perception I had of what love was is totally different then what I know Love is today. My idea of love was based off of actions I expected from others made up from fictitious accounts I've seen over the course of my life.  Those romantic comedies we love to watch or reality dating shows full of drama. At the end the girl always got the guy and They fell in perfect love and rode away in the sunset happy as can be. Now that I think about it these people never worked or ...

There are all sort of "ships" in life  There's friendship, relationships, partnership, leaderships internship, and the list goes on. How do you know when your in a sinking ship or if a "ship" has set sail with out you . Or are you the captain of the ship. The main goal in every "ship" is companionship. We are designed as people to want to belong to a group an organization a safe place. A place were you can be you self a place where you can cry a place where you can grow. What happens when the ship your in starts to sink ?  In life we make friends we date people we join groups. During that time it feels as if the way things are will last forever. Then it comes a time when things must change, this can either make or break the relationship. To live is to grow, if we're not changing we not living because life is a series of change right? So in a situation were you are growing and the party or parties a round you are not what do you do? When a friendshi...

For as long as I can remeber I have never fit in. I'm sure I share this feeling with a lot of people.  Being in a room full of people but still feeling alone. Having moments where you wonder why do I have to be the odd one out. Working hard to achieve goals and have your success look upon as if you did something wrong. Feeling ostracized because your doing well in your life. Sometimes feeling more comfortable around strangers than family and friends.Then finally thinking I'm darned if I do darned if I don't! Is it just me? You may be reading this like geez that's depressing and in those moments I felt that way too. So many questions why? Emotions up and down trying to figure out how to fit in but you just can't . Praise be on to the Lord ! Once my purpose was revealed to me I realized I wasn't  created to fit in. I was created for a purpose that not everyone can handle. I became proud to know that I didn't buckle under the pressure of having to be like those...

There are moments in life that you have to take notice stop an reflect.  From time to time going forward you will see these post called "reflection moments" . It's just me taking the time to express gratitude for those moments in life that are special that move you that make you feel grateful.. Feel free to express some reflection moments of your own remember sharing your story can help the next person. So here we go ...  A few days ago I was blessed to participate in a conversation that made me appreciate and understand a lot of the trials and tribulations I have been through. In talking to this person it was as if I was talking to the former me. It made me grateful for a few reasons, first to see that I have made so many changes for the better. Second there was a reason I had to go through what I've been through ! In the mist of a storm it's hard too see the other side or even know if you are going to make it out. Your world becomes a series of questions and ...

About two years ago myself and a dear friend decided that we were going to take telling the truth to another level. Now to be clear it wasn't that we lied to each other but there are those moments in friendship when we don't speak up. We don't speak up because we worry we will hurt the person or that the person will get angry. Contrary to all the cons we decided to push our friendship to the truthful limits! The reason we decided to do this you ask ? It was to better ourselves as the strong woman we proclaimed ourselves too be. So know matter what we agreed to tell each other the truth and be open to the criticism and correction if need be. Why did we decided to take the truth check challenge ? When you see yourself and those around you continually repeating the same mistakes , clueless to what the cause is remaining stagnant hurt and frustrated you become exhausted. Once you become tired destruction can be right around the corner because at this point your each Like what...

I'm going to take a moment to be transparent. Once upon a time In my life i enjoyed gossip and would sometime even join in on it. ( now a lot of  people do many won't admit it) At the time I found it harmless and sometimes entertaining it was all just jokes right ? Until one day I ended up on the other side of gossip now my life was the topic! I didn't even know why, what had I done. It literally  had me questioning me self, looking over every action I take, second guessing myself. Then it hit me or should I say it was revealed to me. All the juciy "harmless" stories and jokes I had listened too those people probably felt the same way or worst. During that time when all eyes or should I say mouths felt like they were on me I felt lost. I felt hurt, violated, angry, disappointed and humiliated. Then I began to withdrawal not being sure who I can trust who I can now talk too. Boy was the enemy having a field day with me! The moral of my story or should I say confess...

There is a Devine Purpose for each and Everyone of us. As I sit and reflect over my life there's one identifiable feeling I can remember. It was that pull inside of me that I had something significant to do! You may wonder have I ever felt "the pull? Purpose is something we are born with it is in your genetic makeup. God was so strategic so detailed to build each and every person in this world as and individual fearfully and wonderfully made. I'm in awe when I think about how each and every person in this world was given a gift all there own and no 2 people have the same gift. How awesome is that! Even if you don't see your gift or don't under stand know that it is there. God didn't run out of promise while creating you he gave it equally so no need to worry he blessed you too.   The best way I can describe the pull is to say it's a feeling almost a knowing  Deep down with in that tells you there's more! It's the knowing that  you have greatness in ...

Beware of the boredom trap! Seems like when a person gets bored all the worst ideas come in there mind. You want to hang out with people you know you have no business, go places you know you shouldn't. Entertain things that other wise would not appeal to you. Getting bored will make you call that ex you couldn't stand ! Being bored can make you venture in to territory you never thought you would. Being bored can lead to dangerous situations. Being bored will have you settling for less than you deserve for a moment of entertainment. I wonder if somewhere deep down we secretly have a need for drama? That adrenaline rush that makes life seems So intense ! Have we been programed  to  except drama and messiness as the   new normal? I can only speak from personal experience to say boredom has gotten me in some situations I wanted to kick my own butt about! The next time you have a overwhelming feeling  of boredom take notice of what are the first things  that come t...

Hurt can be so detrimental to a persons life . It seems to take on a role all of its own. I find a lot of people today function out of there hurt. Once hurt a protective shield is build that won't let anything or anyone in bad or good. People can build there whole life around there hurt. Hurt can keep you from reaching your destiny. Hurt brings fear and fear will cripple you stopping your progress leaving You stagnant. Hurt never comes alone it's the leader of the pack ! It has friends such as lack of trust , frustration, confusion,fear, anger and rebellion. Best believe if you have hurt it has unpacked it's bags making your load heavy sometimes to the point where you feel you can't make it or want to give up completely.  You have so many ideas and dreams you can't get off the ground because in your mind you feel maybe this won't work (fear). I'll get around to it just have so much too do (confusion). You feel no one will support you anyway so why try ( lack...

I find that people love to hear a good story ... I know I do! .. There was nothing more entertaining or enlightening then a good story. It either secretly answered a burning question or provided information I didn't know. Theres nothing like sitting down and listening to someone who has great tales too tell. In a life I believe that everyone of us have an amazing story to tell. In telling that story we help the next person or persons. We are all role models in some way shape or form. The world is our class room our platform with many waiting. Waiting for the answer to that question no one else can answer or understand. Waiting for that encouraging word that may get them though there tough situation. Will you tell you story today ?  Remember there always someone watching you your life is a living testimony. It's the answer to someone mystery.  Share your Ulitimate Story today! 

Hello Out there! It all has to Start some where ........ Have you ever had a Dream that seemed so big that it was impossible to even wrap you mind around attempting to achieve it? Have you ever had that feeling deep down inside that there something greater in you that your purpose is much greater than you find your self present day? I imagine that I am not alone ...  My beginning starts here with Soul-therapy A place were positivity lives, laughter is plentiful and you may even learn something too.