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Change is never easy and often not excepted, even sometimes when you feel you're prepared for it. As always I'm going to give you my truth my whole truth and nothing but, some may feel as if they can relate some may feel they disagree. I Totally get & respect that. Just know these are my personal events and feelings and they are never put out there to tell someone the way they feel or see things are wrong. Im just giving you my story through my eyes hoping you enjoy them. Now that I've gotten all off topic.. on to this new "Gig" shall I ...
Let me start by saying that I have been in the workforce since the age of 16. My first job was at a local Mcdonalds flipping burgers. I worked there for 4 years and actually enjoyed my self not because of the job but because of the people I worked with. Then Adulthood began to kick in and I knew I needed a career with benefits and the whole package. So off I went to work for Yale Hospital delivering patient trays. Again I loved the people I worked with but the job itself was tough. Walking into patient's rooms never knowing what to expect and sometimes seeing or smelling the worst began to take its toll. A few years doing that part-time I then transferred to a different department in the hospital I ended up leaving there because I was still part-time which didn't include the benefits. So I searched for yet another job (while on my job) (don't judge me!) and found full-time work finally! This job would even be paying me $3 more dollars an hour than I was making. Enough said I was gone off to Verizon for the next 15 years. I must say you have to have a Special type anointing to work with the public! lol, People can be mean, nasty, and downright rude! I've been cursed at, threaten, ( to the point I had to be escorted home by police officers for safety), lied on, I've even had a cell phone thrown at me! It was tough but I always managed to get it together and make it my own.
As Difficult as some of my other Jobs could be I always managed to make it through the adjustment period and make the most of it. This new Gig is a totally different entity! Can you love something and not understand it all at the same time? This job I will say is one that I didn't expect to have a difficult time adjusting to but it has been hard for me. it shocks me almost makes me feel guilty. If you haven't figured it out already I am referring to my new job as a Mother. I don't regret the blessing that's come in the form of my daughter, not one bit. I can admit that becoming a mother has been quite an adjustment for me, now 6 months in I'm finally starting to find a sort of groove. As hard as many things in my life have been, work, school, relationships and becoming a mother takes on a whole new meaning. I often felt like a failure, even when people tell me I'm doing a great job. See I tried to approach motherhood like I did any other job in my life, with my brain but I soon figured out that motherhood is 20% brain and 80% heart. The love that you have for your child motivates you drives you, keeps you wanting to be better, and better keeps you running when you are utterly exhausted. Keeps you hopeful when the chips are down. Makes you smile when your day is just going straight to heck!
In the beginning I never quite felt like I was caught up, I always felt behind. I was always tired, I could get things organized at home the way I wanted. I didn't know what the right system was for making bottles, washing laundry keeping the house together. Ugh, I felt like a complete failure. I wondered how others seem to have gotten it so easy, even the one who isn't that great to there kids seem confident ( no shade ) what am I doing wrong. Finally, one day as I vented about my struggle to a great friend she told me, As long as your little one is happy and healthy you are doing a great job. A light bulb went off that day, and I had a conversation with my self. I decided to just go with whatever happens and deal with it as it comes. I told myself that I didn't have to be perfect and that it's ok if I don't do things the way I am expected to. I don't have to compare myself to anyone, my little girl is healthy happy, and thriving. I finally got it! I know now I am going to be ok.
Change is never easy and often not excepted, even sometimes when you feel you're prepared for it. As always I'm going to give you my truth my whole truth and nothing but, some may feel as if they can relate some may feel they disagree. I Totally get & respect that. Just know these are my personal events and feelings and they are never put out there to tell someone the way they feel or see things are wrong. Im just giving you my story through my eyes hoping you enjoy them. Now that I've gotten all off topic.. on to this new "Gig" shall I ...
Let me start by saying that I have been in the workforce since the age of 16. My first job was at a local Mcdonalds flipping burgers. I worked there for 4 years and actually enjoyed my self not because of the job but because of the people I worked with. Then Adulthood began to kick in and I knew I needed a career with benefits and the whole package. So off I went to work for Yale Hospital delivering patient trays. Again I loved the people I worked with but the job itself was tough. Walking into patient's rooms never knowing what to expect and sometimes seeing or smelling the worst began to take its toll. A few years doing that part-time I then transferred to a different department in the hospital I ended up leaving there because I was still part-time which didn't include the benefits. So I searched for yet another job (while on my job) (don't judge me!) and found full-time work finally! This job would even be paying me $3 more dollars an hour than I was making. Enough said I was gone off to Verizon for the next 15 years. I must say you have to have a Special type anointing to work with the public! lol, People can be mean, nasty, and downright rude! I've been cursed at, threaten, ( to the point I had to be escorted home by police officers for safety), lied on, I've even had a cell phone thrown at me! It was tough but I always managed to get it together and make it my own.As Difficult as some of my other Jobs could be I always managed to make it through the adjustment period and make the most of it. This new Gig is a totally different entity! Can you love something and not understand it all at the same time? This job I will say is one that I didn't expect to have a difficult time adjusting to but it has been hard for me. it shocks me almost makes me feel guilty. If you haven't figured it out already I am referring to my new job as a Mother. I don't regret the blessing that's come in the form of my daughter, not one bit. I can admit that becoming a mother has been quite an adjustment for me, now 6 months in I'm finally starting to find a sort of groove. As hard as many things in my life have been, work, school, relationships and becoming a mother takes on a whole new meaning. I often felt like a failure, even when people tell me I'm doing a great job. See I tried to approach motherhood like I did any other job in my life, with my brain but I soon figured out that motherhood is 20% brain and 80% heart. The love that you have for your child motivates you drives you, keeps you wanting to be better, and better keeps you running when you are utterly exhausted. Keeps you hopeful when the chips are down. Makes you smile when your day is just going straight to heck!
In the beginning I never quite felt like I was caught up, I always felt behind. I was always tired, I could get things organized at home the way I wanted. I didn't know what the right system was for making bottles, washing laundry keeping the house together. Ugh, I felt like a complete failure. I wondered how others seem to have gotten it so easy, even the one who isn't that great to there kids seem confident ( no shade ) what am I doing wrong. Finally, one day as I vented about my struggle to a great friend she told me, As long as your little one is happy and healthy you are doing a great job. A light bulb went off that day, and I had a conversation with my self. I decided to just go with whatever happens and deal with it as it comes. I told myself that I didn't have to be perfect and that it's ok if I don't do things the way I am expected to. I don't have to compare myself to anyone, my little girl is healthy happy, and thriving. I finally got it! I know now I am going to be ok.
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