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Life's Lessons

Lessons in Life 

This Blog entry is inspired by a Facebook post that I was about to post but realized i t would be way too long ! If some of you are like me I have to be in the mood to be able read a really long status update. 

I was thinking on this particular day about a major lesson I had learned. I wanted to share with my friends and followers and hopefully someone would get a profound revelation and say hey thats good or I like that lol .   On to the Lessons …

Life it self is a series of lessons learned, when a person is not learning there not living. Im not going to break down my whole life full of lessons no ( don’t worry that would take a life time ) but I will share with you the one's that are most profound too me. The one's that really are lessons learned and not life clift notes. (that quick cheap version )

Lesson 1. 
Live and Let Live 
This is such a big one for me because I personally have been on both sides of this statement. Ive been in seasons in my life where I have been judged for decisions that Iv’e made, ridiculed for not being the person people had made me out to be in there mind and  lectured on how I could of , should of done something that I didn’t ask anyones opinion or help with.  A large part of my life I was under the microscope of people who felt they had the right to do these things to literally dictate to me and throw back at me my mistakes. People who have tried to manipulate me in to living my life in  a way that is beneficial to them in the long run. See I was a people pleaser always wanting to keep the peace, always wanting everyone to like me, to not get angry with me. Thank God I was able to grow an mature from that and now stand up for me . Guess what people didn’t like that either …… Now I’m too self righteous, too independent, Selfish and think Im BETTER than others(there words not mines). Can I win with these people ? (who are they anyway right?) 
On the flip side, I found myself after years of being the victim of judgmental people I myself because judgmental to a certain extent. I would become angry or frustrated with others who didn’t share my same methods, opinions or even beliefs. I personally wasn’t as aggressive, as others can be and definitely was not as vocal with my judgements. There was a entire judgmental conversation going on in my head. What we think is what actions we take, maybe not immediately but eventually.  It all starts in the mind and the heart. Out of the mouth the Heart speaks. 

It wasn’t until after an very rough transition in my life, where I had to literally begin over  that I was broken enough to see that I had taken on the traits of those who were hurting me. See when others forces there judgements thoughts and opinions on you it can cause confusion. Depending on the season in your life it can stunt your growth.  Your now living for others and not actively seeking your own personal path to destiny . 
I speak for myself when I say I never want that person who has made a judgmental remark or statement that will negatively change the course of another's path in life. We never know how our words can effect another. We never know where another person is in life. How a person may take what we say. In what way a person may use the words you just dished out to them. 


Iv'e never have been so hurt and confused in my life then when I looked up one day an realized that the path I had taken was the wrong one. I had been influenced by people I looked up too and was fulfilling  what they needed out of me. Now left at a 4 way stop sign too decide which way to go and i directionally challenged naturally. It very hard to make decisions for me most times. I’m feeling too far away from the beginning to start over. Im feeling to far too the left to go right. 

Now let me be clear … I am not at all advocating that anything and every thing should go we need rules and guidance or the world would be totally out of control. I am a strong believer in allowing people to make there mistakes, and loving them through the correction. Teaching people how to do better instead of talking about how bad there doing. Looking at a persons heart instead of there sin. Praying them through the tough times instead of lecturing them when they already feel bad enough. Lending a helping hand even though you may not get anything in return. Teaching someone the secrets of success instead of holding on to knowledge in the fears that someone may supersede you. 

In the Lesson to Live and Let live its about rising above all of the madness. Being able to look past those who may judge you not agree with you and may not even want to be apart of your life because you are not living according too there manual. 

That’s all for now guys. It would be way to much too add others but I will be back soon with some more Life Lessons. Be Blessed. Live and Let Live. 

Smooches 




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