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Single,Saved, Unsure

The topic of being single is pretty taboo in this day an age. There are dedicated groups and organizations that represents the single community. There's a whole movement going on for the single world. Although there a wealth of information out there about singleness, dating and living a life for Christ. Who is talking about the combination of the 3 from there personal experience? When I was single and developing in my Christian walk I was such a struggle for me to go too someone about dating because you pretty much always got the same answer. No sex before marriage, no living together, he must be a believer, and the list goes on but I needed more. Exactly how do I do this when I was never really taught a out dating in the first place? I remember going to a singles seminar at a church and the set up was a panel of experienced believers who would answer anonymous questions  written and put into a box. I was super excited about this I felt my question would finally be answered. Well ... Someone pulled my question out of the box and as I sat trying not to make it obvious it was mines I anxiously waited. My question was "how do you date as a saved person"? To my disappointment I was given the same generic answer that I always heard. So I went through the missions of dating battling a lot of things learning a lot of things, failing at a lot of  things, struggling through so things and conquering many things. Today I can say 1 year married that I know how too date and how to keep it Christ centered. The bible is a wonderful thing but it's a terrible thing when a scripture is thrown at you without meaning behind it. It's like giving driving directions to someone but they don't know what state there for. There useful pony when the destination is revealed. Guys I decided I wanted to help those who were like me trying to change there life, wanting to date and stay holy. Struggling secretly wanting answers but not know who to trim too. I decided to right a book and the title is Single Save & Unsure (what they don't tell you). Preordering will be available soon I pray that my journey will be a leasing to someone. That someone will have those questions answered be prepared as they go on the journey of dating and hopefully too marriage. I'm super excited about this project I've held on for quite sometime thinking that maybe people would t understand or be interested. In my heart I know there arenpeoplenout there like me having questions and not knowing who too ask. So I will keep you guys posted thank you for reading share this with someone you never know who may need a helping hand. 

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