~ #SoulFul Therapy ~

Guilty!!!!  Being a fixer can be a great thing and it can be a counter productive thing all at the same time. If you are used to being the person who is put in the position too handle everything. Even put your self in the position without being ask. Sometimes you play the role of parent  and don't even have any children. Becoming the responsible sibling when your not the oldestor an only child.  That person who is readily available to help. Taking up the slack always no matter how your left feeling. I learned we can become addicted to almost anything! I had become addicted to  helping. I had no idea that I have an addiction to helping. Don't get me wrong it's great to help others by all means but not at the expense of hurting yourself. Or to the point that you resent others for not reciprocating things the way you do. I am the type of person when faced with a challenge I attack it head on and am usually successful in tackling that challenge. In doing so I sometimes r...

I was going through my iPad reading some of my old notes I happen to come across some old poerty that I had written. I honestly had forgotten all about them because I haven't written poetry in quite some time. Back then I used poetry to express how I was feeling because I didn't know how too verbally praise Jesus for growth!  This poem was inspired by the day I met my husband, we happened to cross each other's paths while I was interning for grad school. It was my last day and we ended working on a project together, we had seen each other a few times before but neither of us had spoken to one another.  That day in a few hours we spent together  I was really touched  it was an instant connection. There was just something about him .... We were smitten secretly and I don't know about him but I didn't want that day to end ... Little did we know a few years later we would be man and wife. God certainly has a way of blessing you when you least expect it. I decided to sha...

Smile ! Let start with that 😀 ok I bet that felt great! I know there can be so many things in life that attempt to steal your smile. Things that you think you will never recover from. Situations that no one could possible understand. There's never enough money, I need a job, the people around me don't appreciate me, if I get one more bill in the mail ! The list goes on and on ! Our minds our flooded with this all day long and we forget or get so emotionally burdened that we pause. I  am a living witness that I want you to know, YOU were born for a purpose on purpose! You can get that degree! You can open that buisness!  Start/finish that book!  you can loose the weight! You can get married have children what ever your heart desires faith can get you there! Know that Someone does care about you! Your bank account won't always be low ! You are a power house of dreams, determinations, and success! The first step to achieving these things is to get out of your own way!!! No ...

In my first reflections post I told you guys, I would post more in the future these are moments worthy of being remembered and shared! I hope you are just as encouraged as I was !  We hear the saying everything happens for a reason so often. When you are going through tough times you sometimes don't want to hear or understand how that can be a positive! (Just keeping it real)  I have to testify because this moment in my life I hope to reflect on often because it was right on time. It was at one of the lowest feeling moments in my life, everything seemed to be going wrong. I mean from finance, friendships, health, even my relationship. I walked into work eyes puffy and red from crying the whole drive there. It felt like I was crying from my soul. As I was trying to get my self together I made myself some hot tea so I can push through it. ( cause that's what we do never really healing) a woman I've talked too a few times at work but don't have relationship with outside wo...

A Blessing is such a wonderful thing, it will have you floating feeling like your on cloud 9 , like nothing can ever bring you down. Thats exactly what a blessing is designed to do! It's imperative to keep our eyes open for our blessings they come in any way shape or form. There's a firmilar scripture that comes to mind you may have heard this scripture many times "write the vision and make it plain". I can only speak for me when I say hearing this verse I'll write out my plans pray about them and sometimes forget about the list due to life's business. I tuck it away thinking " I took it too God he heard my prayers I'm all set".  To the contrary that list is not only for God but it is for our selves. Yes he has heard our prayers  no doubt. Often we pray for things, for people for situations and  don't give a second thought to them after there out in the atmosphere. Then all of a sudden seems like life has taken a turn for the worst. The sun h...

They say only the Strong Survive ... By the way who are "they" anyway ?  Just curious! This sentence right here creates the idea that those who are strong never need strength. Being strong often means being hurt, because you forget about self and stand in the gap for others. This position is not always chosen can be placed upon a person unwillingly. You wear your poker face  when you need to get the job done but deep inside your hurting. Walls of pain built up to protect you. The strong come off as not being phased by anything. Never need assistance never need an encouraging word. I'm hear to tell you that's so drastically wrong. Behind that bright smile there a aching to be given what you are giving out to others. There a desire to often quit because why do I have to be the strong one the responsible one all the time. There's a misconception because things get handled I don't need assistance. Because I don't mind helping lets just pile the work up. Becaus...